tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144141303938808400.post9091136200672697709..comments2023-04-09T02:24:26.092-07:00Comments on Parent-Free By Choice: "She was my mother once..."Vickie@Demand_Euphoriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17706946767924290485noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144141303938808400.post-17388539759205890772015-08-14T15:22:26.076-07:002015-08-14T15:22:26.076-07:00This is succinct and beautiful: "she was my ...This is succinct and beautiful: "she was my mother once, and she was a terrible<br />person, and now she's dead." Our mothers dying one day is the biggest weapon used by those trying to shame us into reconciling. I love how you put it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081089507902712270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144141303938808400.post-1856713591056763082011-10-26T13:12:07.369-07:002011-10-26T13:12:07.369-07:00I agree, thank you for sharing. I'd like to th...I agree, thank you for sharing. I'd like to thank everyone who has. Most of all the creator of this blog, for the inspiring thing that you're doing, helping us be the kind and gentle parents we want to be, and to break the cycle which some of our parents couldn't. The link between you're two blogs is so important, i hope that more people come across it. Sadly, i'm afraid that the really 'bad' parents out there are not the ones that are reading this to try and better themselves. But we can all improve, and should never stop trying! For Michelle, don't let you're guard down, or your kids down, but remember too that you are human, it's ok to not be perfect. I hope for you in the future that many moments DO in fact go by when you no longer remind yourself of what not to be, and you just BE, the wonderful person, and parent that you obviously are. Thank you.Amandanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144141303938808400.post-7650940814078532212011-10-06T17:32:24.506-07:002011-10-06T17:32:24.506-07:00thank you for sharing this. it is incredible and ...thank you for sharing this. it is incredible and you are amazing. people always try to guilt me into going back to the abuse i endured for 25 years. what will you feel when she is gone...and sadly she has been gone for years. not a word in many years. so for me that day has come, not officially but still. i am sad for all of us that had to endure this growing up but hopefully this will show a few people that you can be better without a parent like that. my mother is a role model of what not to be to my kids. and not a moment goes by when i dont remind myself that. that mother voice in my head constantly criticizing and putting me down is a wisper now but i dont and wont let my guard down. i wont let my kids down.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065594227852195333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144141303938808400.post-32498764666018449512011-10-06T07:27:40.799-07:002011-10-06T07:27:40.799-07:00I totally agree with you too Annie. This posting ...I totally agree with you too Annie. This posting has brought such comfort to me. I think we tell ourselves that everything has to be happy, forgiven, in a pretty little package, to cover up the sadness, to pretend everything is okay. Thank you for sharing this story. For reaffirming that it is perfectly acceptable to just be. I don't hate my dad. I don't love him either. It's a challenge for so many people to understand it. Thank you for giving a great voice to that perspective, that reality, that truth. <br />Thank you.Aubreyhttp://embracingthismoment.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1144141303938808400.post-4310480125614878492011-10-06T06:05:56.405-07:002011-10-06T06:05:56.405-07:00Wow, reading this brought up tears. I have often w...Wow, reading this brought up tears. I have often wondered how I would feel if my father died. I'm not angry with him anymore, but I have no interest in having any sort of relationship with him. I have often felt like he was my father once, and now he is just a stranger. Will I feel sad when he dies? I can't be sure until it happens, but a big part of me thinks I won't be, and then I feel sort of heartless for thinking that. So reading what you said here makes me feel like I'm not alone in this, thanks.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08589450319640171616noreply@blogger.com